Three problems that almost all couples face today

Cultivating and maintaining a healthy romantic relationship takes dedication and work, which may explain, to some extent, why people often say that a particular relationship isn't "working."

Just as our personalities and biological makeup are distinct, so are our communication styles, experiences, and psyche. In the context of a partner relationship, the last three factors are the biggest culprits for the problems that almost all couples face.

A recent survey, conducted by the dating app Couply and had a sample of 1000 people, showed that the top three obstacles to building a healthy and long-term relationship are found in communication problems (56 percent), lack of quality time together . (percentage 37%) and in psychological difficulties (percentage 35%).

 The main question of the survey, which had different answers, was about the biggest challenge that the participants face in their relationship.

Difficulty in communication

People have different communication codes. Patience and respect are necessary to be able to coexist with our other half. However, often, even with patience, communication problems within a relationship do not stop.

Deanna Shahady, a relationship counselor with Couple, says a major reason couples have trouble communicating is because their partners are more self-focused. "Basically, we don't listen and we don't take each other into account," says the expert and suggests that the solution to this issue lies in awareness and honesty. "It is important to listen to the other person and not to be constantly defensive. Next to us we have a person we love and not an enemy". She encourages couples to talk to each other and express how they feel so that their communication becomes real and meaningful. "Sometimes it's good to put ourselves in other people's shoes. In this way, our relationship will be helped and communication will improve".

Lack of quality time

"Just because you're sitting next to each other looking at your phone for hours on end doesn't mean you're spending time together," says Shahady, who suggests couples schedule their dates throughout the day or week. In fact, it encourages its members to ask their partners to get together.

"Tell your partner you need to see them and talk to them. Ask questions about their day, their work, their walk, when your obligations overwhelm you. Of course, don't pressure the other person (of course, you don't want that to happen to you), but be present and present. Show with meaningful questions that you want to start a conversation that will last or organize a shared experience. A dinner, a walk will give you meaningful contact with your partner.”

Mental health

With what is happening around us, it stands to reason that we are often overwhelmed by negative emotions. Fear and anger are the main ones, while the rates of anxiety disorders and panic attacks are constantly increasing, as a result the relationships of couples are strongly affected.

"In the event that your heavy psychology does not affect your daily life much and is simply the result of fatigue, then perhaps the solution is a relaxing bath or a warm hug from your partner. However, if negative emotions have limited the hours you smile every day, strongly affect any relationship and contribute to poor performance at work, then the best solution is to seek help from a specialist," suggests the relationship consultant.