Revealing their daughter's letter/ Parents of the 16-year-old who committed suicide in Gjirokastra: Bullying alarm, she told us how she would endure 6 hours in class?!

The house is empty for Irsa Muçollari's parents.

The questions about what led the 16-year-old to commit suicide last Monday have unanswered answers, except for suspicions about bullying at school that are swirling in their minds.

Irsa's mother, Mirela Muçollari, says: "I will be held hostage for the rest of my life and in my head I only have 'WHY? WHY?'. Who upset me so much and no one understood? We loved her so much. I lived for her, I worked for her! To find the child when she came home from work in that condition. I gave her breath, I didn't save her!". Ilir Muçollari, Irsa's father, says: "Recently I saw that her behavior had changed, she was a little more upset, but we couldn't imagine the girl going to this point. She was very polite, very good, very wise, I asked her when she came home from school: 'How did you get through the bad time, dad?. Good, dad is fine'. This also surprised us."

Iliri and Mirela try to remember their last conversations with the girl, before the act of self-sacrifice.

"On the last day, he came to me 20 minutes before school was supposed to end, telling me we finished early. A week ago, he cried and told his mother to change my class because they don't teach. It's 6 hours, how am I going to endure it every day like this?"

"They're acting like crazy," he told me. They were laughing in vain, talking in vain, and I don't like it. He wanted to go to the class that had the 9-year-old's friends. I told him to mind his own business, ignore them. He told me to do that, but it's 6 o'clock, mom, he told me. I'll get the teacher, we'll change seats. No, no, he said it's worse that way. Apparently he was ashamed that his friends would bully him again. No, no, I was wrong to tell you..."

Now they understand the emotional burden their daughter has felt.

"They found some letters that were written in English about the bullying. In another letter it said should I tell my father or not?" said Iliri.

Irsa was a chess champion in elementary school, gifted in painting, talented in foreign languages ​​but not very social. She knew herself very well, as she describes in this assignment letter where she compares herself to her only friend.

"She's very good, they told me and the teachers. She's a little shy... She's also the type I told you about. But activate her to open up. She was better than she should have been, she closed in on herself and took everything with her," said Mirela.

In great pain, Mirela searches Irsa's room for a sign, a reason that could justify her daughter's actions. The great sadness that the tragedy brought.

"Even if you gave her 200 lek, 100 lek, or not at all, she wouldn't have bothered. She was so understanding. She never asked for anything too hard. Irsa understood everything. Now we all have economic difficulties! But we haven't left anything unfulfilled for Irsa," said her father.

Top Channel was close to Irsa's parents, but today they found the strength to give a message to other parents: to listen to the silence of children.

"When parents come here to console, they all tell us that they have been bullied and we are completely shocked, they tell me how much bullying is, how much it is. It happened to us, at least it doesn't happen to others, it should be like an alarm bell, to stay as close to the children as possible, to ask them about everything."

"Parents should never think that their children are perfect without going to school, without seeing the grade level, because they will suffer unexpectedly and without remembering."

 

 

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